❝ The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others ❞
~Sonya Friedman
~Sonya Friedman
Sticks and stones may brake my bones, BUT that's the furthest they will EVER go
7 million girls and women have eating disorders as well as 1 million boys and men 10% report them starting at age 10 or younger, while 33% through the ages of 10 or 15
There is beauty in the world. There is hope. The world is going to keep on turning, no matter what. It’s hard to keep up sometimes, but, it’s worth it once you find your rhythm. It’s worth it to keep on trying.
❝ What I hate is ignorance, smallness of imagination, the eye that sees no farther than its own lashes. All things are possible… who you are is limited only by who you think you are. ❞
My body is not your community service project, my body is not your soulless fetish object, I do not need to justify my body to you or anyone, my body does not make me a joke nor does it make me insensitive to your hurtful remarks, my body is not an excuse for you to treat me like a second class citizen, my body is none of your business.
Listen to me.
You are enough. Despite that horrible, starless black wave of fear and guilt and imperfections that seems to be coming closer to you, inch by inch, you are enough. That wave is a figment of our society’s imagination. In reality, we are all enough.
I’m sick of girls walking around with their arms crossed and hair covering their face in order to hide their bodies. I’m sick of that sting of anxiety that comes when you see a picture of a girl that you want to look like. I’m sick of the way we treat our bodies, as if they are a punching bag. If we want to lose weight, we starve. If we want to gain weight, we binge. The bodies that have been given to us are beautiful and strong, but they are also fragile. Even if we don’t want to admit it, we are fragile.
To be perfectly honest with you ladies, I am at a fork in the road of accepting myself. Everything I speak about to you? I believe in it 100%. But it’s so difficult to see myself the same way. I believe in all of you, but I don’t believe in myself. And that’s part of why I created this blog. I wanted to join all of the women (and men) who are struggling with who they are.
To quote one of my favorite songs, "we are all in this together, we are all in this alone." It’s so true. We are all in this together. We all share struggles and toils that come along with being a part of whatever it means to be human. But each one of our experiences is completely our own. I didn’t fully realize this until one of my teachers was speaking to me earlier this year. As I don’t remember her exact words, I’m going to take what she said and put in into context about the blog- I could talk at you all I wanted about beauty and how everyone is perfect just the way they are, but in reality? Loving yourself is your choice. It’s a simple yes or no question.
There are going to be days where you just want to wear baggy sweatshirts and hide from the world. There are going to be days when you want to run outside and feel summer’s green grass in between your toes and feel the sunlight blanketing your skin. Loving yourself isn’t easy. It’s messy. It sometimes seems stupid. It’s confusing and irritating. But my god, is it beautiful
Be Content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.’ ~Lao Tzu
People can be so ignorant today. Don’t be ignorant. Stand up for a change in the way our society works. Stand up for those who can’t.
"You don’t have a soul. You are a Soul. You have a body." -C.S. LewisHere’s the thing: life moves on. As hectic and sad as things can get, life goes on. Sometimes it might seem easier to just drop out of school and sleep for the rest of your life than deal with everything going on. Sometimes it might even seem easier to slam your head against a wall or floss your teeth with that ridiculously thin plastic floss that makes your gums bleed.But think about it. Our world rotates at 108,000 kilometers each hour, never stopping to take a breath. It just keeps fucking moving. The ground we stand on never stops. So why should we?
"Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live."
— Jim Rohn
"A human being is part of a whole, called by us the "universe," a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings, as something separate from the rest — a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few people near us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.""Don’t go through life. GROW through life."
— Albert Einstein
"People need to see themselves as miracles and worthy of love."
— Virginia Satir
A woman is often measured by the things she cannot control. She is measured by the way her body curves or doesn’t curve, by where she is flat or straight or round. She is measured by 36-24-36 and inches and ages and numbers, by all the outside things that don’t ever add up to who she is on the inside. And so if a woman is to be measured, let her be measured by the things she can control, by who she is and who she is trying to become. Because as every woman knows, measurements are only statistics. and STATISTICS LIE"Look at you. You’re young. And you’re scared. Why are you so scared? Stop being paralyzed. Stop swallowing your words. Stop caring what other people think. Wear what you want. Say what you want. Listen to the music you want to listen to. Play it loud as fuck and dance to it. Go out for a drive at midnight and forget that you have school the next day. Stop waiting for Friday. Live now. Do it now. Take risks. Tell secrets. This life is yours. When are you going to realize that you can do whatever you want?"
— Louise Flory
"…the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous." — Louise Flory
— Carrie Bradshaw
"The woman wins who calls herself beautiful and challenges the world to change to truly see her." ~Naomi Wolf
You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream."
— C.S. Lewis
Wherever you go, there you are. You are right where you need to be.
"Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius, and it is better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring." — Marilyn Monroe
Beauty. If you believe me or not, you and I have it. Don’t think so? Look deeply in the mirror, you see that bright light where your heart is? That’s the beauty God gave you. If you’re like me and are super insecure about your looks, I recommend you to continue to read this. 3 years ago, when I was 11, (lmao do the math xD), I lost all self-esteem I ever had. It started off because people told me I was ugly, but then I realized that I was causing myself to be like this. The only person to blame at that time when I didn’t know I was the criminal, I blamed God. I always said, "Why did you do this to me?! Why did you make so many beautiful women and then make the mistake of making me?" I regret that. I love God. Anyways, back to the story… I went into a minor depression. I kept thinking of just leaving everyone and everything to make them happy. I always thought of committing suicide. Until he came along. LMAO no, no one changed me, only I changed myself. I thought, what would killing myself do? Nothing. I was so dumb for thinking that leaving people’s lives would make them happy. I just needed to change my attitude and find my beauty. I tried to stay positive, forget the break up, and just have fun. You only have one life, live it while you can because you may never know what tomorrow may bring. Yes, I still have problems, but I’m working my butt to make my self-esteem how it was when I was little. So hold your head up and keep walking. Ignore what they say and just remember, no matter what you think or what they think, I KNOW you’re beautiful. And God made you beautiful for someone who will take care of you with all their heart. <3
Beauty is something wonderful and strange that the artist fashions out of the chaos of the world in the torment of his soul. And when he has made it, it is not given to all to know it. To recognize it you must repeat the adventure of the artist. It is a melody that he sings to you, and to hear it again in your own heart you want knowledge and sensitiveness and imagination."
